There are times in our life when we simply need to talk to someone other than family and friends and to feel heard and understood. Counselling is setting time aside for you to talk about your thoughts and how you are feeling with the support and guidance of a trained listener. Within a safe and confidential meeting place, the aspiration is for you to make sense of your world and to put things into perspective; to feel in control and confident to make those changes in your life, which you need to happen.
In sessions, my focus is on you! Putting you at the centre of the work, respecting what you are able to or prepared to talk about and for you to determine the pace of the sessions. Ultimately you will never be made to talk about something you do not want to or made to feel rushed. I believe in developing a trusting relationship between counsellor and client first, which is a prerequisite to any change taking place within you the client.
You do not have to be in crisis or on the verge of one, before choosing to talk to someone; you may be experiencing underlying feelings of dissatisfaction with life in general, or seeking balance in your life and spirituality.The Therapeutic Message.
How can therapy be of help? It cannot give us back our lost childhood, nor can it change the past facts. No one can heal by maintaining or fostering illusion. The paradise of pre-ambivalent harmony, for which so many clients hope, is unattainable. The experience of one’s own truth…the post-ambivalent knowledge of it, make it possible to return to one’s own feelings at an adult level – without paradise, but with the ability to mourn (which can) give us back our vitality. Quotation Alice Miller.
As your counsellor I will:
- Offer a safe, confidential place, where you can talk about yourself and your life, which may be painful or confusing and may make you feel uncomfortable, angry or unhappy.
- Offer an opportunity for you to think and talk about yourself and your concerns in a way that you often can’t do with family and friends.
- Offer a place and time just for you to talk about those things that bother you.
- Listen to the way you feel and how this affects you and others.
- Accept the way you are without judging you.
- Help you to make the changes you would like to happen.
- Work with you towards improving your well being.
I will not:
- Offer to ‘cure’ you.
- Judge you.
- Make decisions for you.
- Take advantage of you in any way.
- Spend time talking about my problems.
- Inappropriately discuss what you and I talk about with other people.
What is counselling? I follow the generic counselling approach as set out by the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy, there are four components to this:
1. Counselling is the skilled and principled use of relationships that develop self-knowledge, emotional acceptance and growth, and personal resources.
2. The overall aim is to live more fully and satisfyingly.
3. Counselling may be concerned with addressing and resolving specific problems, making decisions, coping with crises, working through inner feelings and inner conflict, or improving relationships with others.
4. The counsellor’s role is to facilitate the client’s work in ways that respect the client’s values, personal resources, and capacity for self-determination.
MINDFULNESS & QI GONG
Mindfulness is becoming prevalent in client work; helping clients to be in the moment. We tend to either live in the past or project onto the future and if we are to bring about any change, we need to start with the now. Mindfulness is simply a technique to help focus our thoughts and to use all our senses to bring one’s awareness into the now. If disconnected to our physical self, the body, Mindfulness helps to ground, to be in the body and to use sight, hearing, touch, taste, smell and intuition to determine how we feel about something or someone. I practise Qi Gong and clients seem to benefit from physical exercises to focus the mind and to breathe into the body
Rates, Sessions and Availability.
Sessions are £45 per 50 minutes however in extreme or urgent cases discounted rates can be agreed, depending on client ability. I work on a one-to-one basis, via Skype or face to face from The Harmony Centre, Walpole, Suffolk IP19 9BB and Saxon Alternative Therapy Centre, Beccles NR34 9HE.
My counselling qualifications are accredited with the UK’s Counselling and Psychotherapy Central Awarding Body (CPCAB) and I have a completed a Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction course. As a member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and listed on their Accredited Voluntary Register (No 083879) – potential clients can search this register on-line to check out therapists’ validity. I adhere to the Ethical Framework for Good Practice in Counselling & Psychotherapy, which is a set of guidelines striving to standardise the profession and ensure Best Practice. I am obligated to have regular supervision to monitor my effectiveness, indemnity insurance and Continuous Professional Development (CPD) to keep up to-date with the latest research and academia. I am currently working towards accredited membership with the BACP. Counsellors and psychotherapists undertake personal therapy and I have been in therapy for 3.5 years working with sandplay. This afforded me the time and space to work through my own ‘stuff’ but to also experience and understand therapy from the client’s perspective.
How I work.
Working on a one to one basis only, using various techniques as and when applicable, such as Mindfulness, Qi Gong, sand play therapy and psychological astrology.
Psychological Astrology is a useful ancient self-diagnostic tool. Its benefits are working with clients who sense something isn’t right but are unsure where to start and the natal horoscope, or birth chart, maps the psyche highlighting conscious and unconscious behavioural and thought patterns. Astrology gives the therapist and client an alternative language to define and externalise different parts of ourselves, e.g. our feeling world – Moon, our intellectual world – Mercury. Transits help to determine timings in our life when transformation or crisis is likely and a need for introspective work; coincidentally this is usually when clients seek help and sense a need to be proactive. For some clients who have been in therapy for a while feeling stuck, astrology can help bring about a break through.
In sandplay therapy the client sets up a world in a sand tray (see picture below) that corresponds to their inner state using objects and figures in the arrangement of sand. In this manner, through free, creative play, unconscious processes are made visible in a three-dimensional form. Through a series of images that take shape in this way, the process of individuation described by Carl Jung is stimulated and brought to fruition. Sandplay has been termed an ‘X-ray of the Psyche’. It is an excellent medium for those who struggle to find the words to express how they are feeling or simply do not know how they feel.
In addition to my private practice, I work for St Elizabeth’s Hospice, a Suffolk charity and The Big C, a Norfolk cancer charity, specialising in:
- Bereavement & grief