I was drawn to the work of Carl Rogers’ Person Centred counselling. I find this to be a liberating approach. The client is encouraged to describe his / her reality, perceptions and how they relate to themselves and others. Through this exploration the client starts to build and piece together their life’s jigsaw. Once able to consider and see this ‘jigsaw’ it helps bring clarity and understanding to one’s self. Collaboratively client and counsellor work together and the relationship is interactive and dynamic between the two parties. The hope with this theoretical orientation is for the client neither to feel judged, misunderstood nor quizzed. The premise is that clients are the expert on themselves and the role of the counsellor is to help and facilitate the client’s exploration of self and tuning into the client’s inner wisdom.
My specialisms are: anxiety; bereavement and loss; cancer counselling; counselling for trauma or loss during pregnancy or birth.
Surprisingly loss impacts us in many ways throughout our life time and loss isn’t just about the physical death of a loved one. Example losses are: health, redundancy, moving house, retirement, divorce, children leaving home to aging. Where there’s a loss there’s grief. I work with clients to help them to identify which stage of grief they are in and by exploring thoughts and feelings clients recognise that their reactions are normal, albeit painful, and correspond to the stages of grief. Anxiety can be a frightening and debilitating physical consequence of grieving and suffering from anxiety isn’t always apparent for people. I help clients to understand how anxiety impacts the physical body and I coach ways to manage anxiety. Processing grief allows us to transition into the next phase of our life.
Loss, grief and anxiety is applicable in my work with cancer patients and for those caring and supporting someone with cancer. I help clients to identify their losses and align these to the stages of grief. The future is often a daunting prospect and clients can become anxious and overwhelmed with all the ‘what ifs’. In addition to anxiety management, I help clients to be present and to ‘come back’ from scary, imagined futures. Mindfulness is a useful tool to help get out of the head, reconnect to the physical body to use our senses to experience the present moment. I help clients to live with uncertainty and to find a sense of control when life with cancer feels like everything is out of control.
Counselling for trauma or loss during pregnancy or birth includes miscarriages, terminations, still births and neo natal deaths. My work here again includes addressing loss, grief and anxiety. Any event where we have felt totally helpless, powerless and paralysed to act can leave us traumatised. I help clients to digest what has happened to them and explain the impact of trauma on the mind, body and brain. Clients learn that a lot of their physical symptoms are due to the body’s autonomic nervous system rather than something we consciously choose to do. I help clients to self-regulate – meaning being able to do this for yourself – to keep one’s thinking brain online and one’s ‘calming system’ (parasympathetic nervous system) activated. Regaining a sense of control is an important aspect of this work.
All of the above areas are huge events and can be life changing. It isn’t uncommon for a greater meaning in life or spiritual quest to ensue; it’s as if such an event awakens us to our spiritual self. I help clients explore their “spiritual emergence”, a term coined by Stanislav “Stan” Grof, Czech psychiatrist.
Clients can be seen at The Harmony Centre, Walpole, Suffolk IP19 9BB; The Mill House, Lowestoft NR32 3LN; Saxon Alternative Therapy Centre, Beccles NR34 9HE. If you would like to make an appointment or have any questions, in the first instance please either phone (07765861871) or email and I will get back to you. www.awayintwoworlds.co.uk
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My counselling qualifications are awarded by the UK’s Counselling and Psychotherapy Central Awarding Body (CPCAB). I’m an accredited member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and listed on the BACP’s Voluntary Register (No 083879). I adhere to BACP’s Ethical Framework for Good Practice in Counselling & Psychotherapy, which is a set of guidelines striving to standardise the profession and ensure Best Practice. I am obligated to have regular supervision to monitor my effectiveness, indemnity insurance and Continuous Professional Development (CPD) to keep up to-date with the latest research and academia. Recent completed CPD courses in: Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction course; Frontiers in the Treatment of Trauma, by Dr Bessel Van Der Kolk from The National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioural Medicine; Cancer and Counselling with PsychotherapyUK.